I think I have a real big problem with the “I left because I wasn’t good for them” narrative. I see how it can be seen as noble but it can also be seen as cowardly. If you realize there are things about you that are hurting the people you love, and you realize these traits are bad, why not? Work on fixing them? It’s not like leaving people behind won’t also hurt them. It’s kinda just taking the lazy way out instead of working on yourself and your relationship.